Some of us with ADHD have experienced a life of failure. We try, and we try, but in the end the scoreboard is the same. I am not suggesting we are destined to fail, or victory, for us is a fool’s errand. I am saying some of us with ADHD see it more than most.
I have realized through seeing my brother Phillip that it is a lot of work to be as successful. Phile is a real estate agent, and he brings home the bank. The other thing about Phil is that he works his ass off. He almost never gets a day off and he is always busy. He gets one day off a week and he spends a good portion of that day on his cell phone. Everything he does today affects tomorrow and everything he did yesterday affects him today. SCREW THAT! Continue reading →
I will be live with Justine Ruotolo on the Miss ADD Show. This will be an entertaining discussion on the joy and the pain of blogging. I will be sharing stories involving hate-mail, personal blunders, and other stories surrounding both of my sites. I will also be sharing the positive and negative impact it has had on my marriage, and my lovely wife Yvonne who you may remember from Podcast II.
Some of you may be familiar with bloggers who constantly engage in Shameless acts of self-promotion to further their audience and the inflating of their own massive egos by proclaiming their own awesomeness. You should know there are many other reasons people write. We will discuss them.
I will also take this opportunity to mention some of my favorite blogs I read; both seasoned veterans and the up-and-comers. We will also be hearing from some of them.
Justine and I will be taking calls throughout the show so if you have questions for me or Justine, whether they be, personal, blog or otherwise, you are encouraged to call.
If you will be honest with yourself you might discover you have nothing better to do anyway. I am looking forward to this Sunday night. It is a rare joy when I get to speak with my readers. Please feel free to call in.
There are those of us with ADHD for whom the majority of the challenges we have are social. Perhaps, certain people would rather not be around you. Some of them seek only to undermine and tear you down. What they are doing is simply identifying themselves to you as if they were wearing a little name tag that said, “HELLO, I am an Asshole”. I suppose my question is, “Why is this bad thing?” Continue reading →
Personally I don’t care, but others seem to have a problem with labels. Either they do not like being labeled themselves or they take issue with society labeling there kids or loved ones. Some parents will say, “Don’t you dare put a label on my angel”. Yeah okay mom and dad. I bet you wouldn’t say this if your angel’s label read “Honor Student”. Continue reading →
In my home are many unfinished tasks. I know all too well, this is a symptom of my ADHD. It is not always a bad thing. I would like to mention several things in my house that are not completed. Some of you may see them as incomplete. I see them as something else. I am going to bring this full circle at the end so hang on. Continue reading →
My wife did not want me writing about the fact we have separate bedrooms, but fortunately, it got out while we were on a Podcasttogether. Enjoy!
Many years ago, during the first three months of our marriage, I came home to the house after a hard day’s work. I was greeted at the bedroom door by my wife. She was holding a giant garbage bag that contained all of my clothes and a box containing my non-clothes items. She informed me that we would no longer have the same bedroom or the same bathroom. I was pretty bent up about it at first, but after further thought, a soothing calm fell upon me. It was then when it occurred to me what had actually just happened. Continue reading →
The ADDA conference was just held in Orlando Florida. July 24th-27th at the Rosen Shingle Creek resort in Orlando Florida. I am thrilled I had the opportunity to attend. I was also very proud to be accompanied by my wife Yvonne. We had a wonderful time and met some fantastic people. It was initially my plan to crash it, but after being there a short time my wife convinced me to register and stay in Orlando for an extra day. I could not be happier she did.
I am not going to identify everything I learned, but I will hit some of the highlights of what made the trip so much fun. I saw some of my friends whom I had only known as online faces and words. I was honored to have been interviewed twice. The best part was the people I met. It was strange at first seeing the faces of all of those I only knew through my site, but I got used to it fairly quickly; I was even approached by a few people who recognized me.
ADDA Conference | The Venue
The ADDA Conference was a beautiful venue. I am sure it must have been a five star hotel, it was enormous, and beautifully decorated. I felt like I was not supposed to be in a place this nice. It was certainly nicer than our room at “Garbage Gardens” where my wife and I were slumming it.
ADDA Conference | The People
Jeff Copper, DeShawn Wert, Eric Tivers and Mike Fedel, who I know very well, were there and it was awesome to get to meet them in person. They are some of my favorite people in this community. There were also others who I barely knew or had never met.
One of the more refreshing people I met was in a session I attended given by a “Doctor” Yes; a doctor. I did not know this going in or I would not have attended. Dr. Kirsten Milliken of playdhd.com, gave one of the more entertaining presentations. She exhibited none of the characteristics you might expect from a doctor in her presentation. She gave no medical or scientific advice or remedies, but rather very useful practical tips and suggestions. She is one of my new heroes.
I also met and got to know Laurie Dupar of Coaching for ADHD. I had my picture taken with her because I wanted to make one of my readers jealous (haha). Laurie is an awesome lady. We had more in common than I was aware and we talked each other’s ears off.
I met Rick Green and his lovely wife Ava Green of “TotallyADD ®” Rick was exactly as I imagined him to be. My wife and I spoke and laughed with Ava for quite a while and she gave us a DVD of their video. She and her husband Rick were kind enough to sign the jacket.
Then there was Alan Brown of ADDCrusher®. I was very excited to meet Alan. Alan seemingly cannot walk from one place to another, without someone coming up to him to praise him or to pick his brain. He grabbed me and Yvonne and we snuck off into a bar and sat down. Alan bought us both a drink and we were able to sit and talk for an hour and a half. Anytime I was with Alan he was very adamant about introducing me to whoever he was talking with. He is a giver and a real class act.
ADDA Conference | The interactions
I would especially like to thank Jeff Copper and Eric Tivers for taking the time and caring enough to interview me for their blogs. Jeff Copper and I did a video interview and that was not as rough as I imagined it would be since I have never done a video interview. Eric and I did an audio interview about what were my impressions of the ADDA conference and how I came to be there.
I am sure I will make attempts to be at the next ADDA conference. There was an overwhelming awareness I had that all of the people there had at least one thing in common. They all cared very deeply for all of those of us with ADHD. I could not have been more proud to have been in attendance.
Perhaps next year I will even have the honor of presenting. I think this would be an incredible experience and what a great opportunity it would be to speak in front of such a fine group of human beings. We’ll see.
I am Tom Nardone and you are welcome.
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