I had to go through this. Your kid doesn’t.

A story of an ADHD kid stricking back.

littletommyFirst grade; art class; we had a project where we would take a piece of construction paper and write our names on it with glue. Before the glue dried, we would sprinkle glitter on it and it made this shiny glittery image of our name.  Somehow mine came out better than most, and my teacher was very proud.  She held it up for the whole class to see. I was proud for that brief moment. Continue reading →

 

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About Tom Nardone

I write about everything that I can find humor in. I don't write about politics because I don't care what group of people are chosen to destroy this country. There are enough people doing that anyway.
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14 Responses to I had to go through this. Your kid doesn’t.

  1. Leslie says:

    I like listening to what you have to say. I loved your article on growing up being bullied. It gave a voice to a lot of children. I’m hoping to read it to parents and children who have trouble acknowledging or talking about it respectively. The more you help others become aware the more it helps those who don’t have a voice. I think this is your gift. You may not be able to reach everyone but through your readers who also advocate you can reach so many more.

    • Thank You Leslie,

      I would love you to read that to other people if it would help them you do what you have to do to help everybody you can. You are a beautiful person. I think what you do is awesome

  2. Tammy Moore says:

    Tom, you have an amazing gift for writing – for being able to tell the story so naturally and smoothly – in a tone that anyone can relate to – if not as the victim, perhaps as the perpetrator or even the passerby. What I really like about you sharing this particular story is that a) it shows the experience of an outcasted kid, b) the battle of how to fight back against bullying, and c) the most important message of all, especially to kids being bullied, which is that although these experiences can be torturous to go through, they become part of your character – for some, they unfortunately continuously feel helpless, while for others, it prods them to rise up, take a stand, and to rejoice in the fact that they not only survived but DID something with their lives well above and beyond what the “morons” ever expected.
    One more thing- many teachers out their are like Mrs. Ginn – who take the time to find out the motive behind something like the accidentally glued papers, and react reasonably. Unfortunately, there are still so many who aren’t. I hope that as this article is shared amongst readers, teachers and parents alike catch on to the importance of taking a minute to ask instead of judge, to laugh instead of be angry, and to be accepting. If only your classmates had seen Mrs. Ginn’s response afterwards.

  3. Dane Dormio says:

    I’m totally down with the concept that ADD isn’t a “condition” which seems to imply that it doesn’t need to be “treated”. Are you saying that it does? The title of this article seems to imply so, but the content does not (there is no such thing as an anti-bullying medication).

    • Tom Nardone says:

      I am absolutely for treatment of ADD. You are also correct that there is no such thing as an anti bullying medication, nor is there an anti ADHD medication. I did not get bullied because I was ADD directly. I was picked in because I was different, and because I did poorly in most if the things we did in class. I was constantly being called out in class and therefore labeled as stupid by my peers.

      I believe had there been treatment and if I was treated I would have done far better with all these problems and the result could have been far less ridicule.

      To be clear, I am pro treatment, and medication. Thank you for this comment. It was among the better ones I get each day sir.

      • Dane Dormio says:

        You are welcome. My observations:

        -There seems to be an inconsistency between the following ideas:

        A) AD(H)D is a beneficial (or at least neutral) condition
        B) AD(H)D needs to be treated

        If AD(H)D is a beneficial condition (at least if properly accommodated for), that would seem to imply that it needs to be harnessed, rather than neutralized.

        -The approach of treating AD(H)D symptoms to reduce bullying seems to be of the blame-the-victim persuasion. If a kid is mistreated as a result of being different, the problem that needs to be fixed is the mistreatment, not the being different. The line of reasoning that says being different is the problem is akin to the line of reasoning that says female rape victims were “asking for it” by dressing provocatively. A bully could just as well say “The problem isn’t that I’m a bully, it’s that you’re a dork. You’re just asking to be picked on.” I think it is realistic to expect that as long as there are people behaving like bullies, they will always find someone to pick on, regardless of how well-behaved we all are. In the particular stories that you relate, the only instances of wrongdoing were on the parts of the others (teachers and students), so it is them whose behavior was in need of modification. Rather than placing the burden of stopping bullying on the victims, we should place it on the perpetrators.

  4. grace Oribhabor says:

    I wasn’t diagnosed for real until about 15 years ago. I remember struggling constantly with all the problems that ADHD and my little comorbity Asperger’s syndrome caused in my personal life. It wasn’t until I was on FB and started talking with people on *Adults with ADHD did I really begin to feel normal. Please. If you even begin to suspect you have ADD or ADHD, read, read, READ. Research and talk. We don’t have to hide in the shadows about our angst anymore.

  5. Gray Dawster says:

    Merry Christmas Tom and Yvonne
    eat lots of turkey and Christmas Cake
    Ice Cream and Doughnuts 🙂

    Well I only said 😉 lol

    Andro xxxx Yes Tom for Yvonne 😉

  6. Laura G says:

    Hi Tom,
    I’m sorry you were forced to go through all that as a child. You were such a sweet looking little boy, too! I can’t relate in terms of being bullied at school…school was my haven. It was home where I was mistreated by my mother and sisters. I believe I have the female, non-hyperactive form of ADD. I did well in school because I loved it and because it was my “special interest” I could focus. But I was different too, and had few friends. I was mostly allowed to be the girl everyone called very intelligent, but shy and quiet. It was lonely.
    I’m still socially anxious, all these years later, and I feel for all the children who develop “shyness” when they are forced to learn, through painful experience, that they are indeed different. The only good thing I can say about ADD is that it has made me more understanding of the trials of others. And maybe, a little more humble.
    You are indeed inspiring! Keep up the good fight. I’m glad you didn’t take the low road and tease Roman when you had the chance!

    • Thanks so much Laura. This is an excerpt from my book due out this year. I was finishing up another ADHD Post when you comment came in and I really thank you for taking the time. I guess it never occurred to me a child could enjoy school if there life at home was more difficult. I am sorry you had a tough time at home, but in your case I am glad to hear at least you had school.

      I hope you will feel free to subscribe to both of my blogs or if you prefer to friend me on Facebook i can set it up for you there. Thanks for your kind words they truly came at a time I needed them.

      Tom

  7. Your story reminded me instantly of this quote from To Kill a Mockingbird:
    “I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do.”
    Cheers to you, Tom!
    Amy

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