They Don’t Believe I Am ADHD? Oh NO!! What Ever Will I do?

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by Tom Nardone

So many, of my friends on the internet get angry, when they hear people speak about ADHD as if it is a made-up, ridiculous, notion. It offends them to hear anyone say that their medication is unnecessary superfluous drugs usage. I found myself among them for a long time. It really frosted me for anyone to tell me that my ADHD was just a bunch of bullshit. I would see a post or a comment and I wanted to go to battle stations; many times, I did. There has always been a split: between people who claim to be ADHD, and people who don’t believe in the existence of it. I no longer am angered by this.

This comes as no surprise to me as an ADHD person. It shouldn’t come as a surprise to you. Those of us that are ADHD know all too well that there is a much bigger division among us. There are those of us, who believe in medication, and there those that say, “Absolutely not!” I have seen and I have been involved in heated debates and discussions regarding this. This used to upset me too. It doesn’t any more.

I don’t get mad about this anymore because the beliefs of others do not cause reality. The fact that someone does or doesn’t believe that there is such a thing, as ADHD doesn’t make it real or a myth. The fact that someone does or doesn’t believe that there are such things as bipolar disorder, Leukemia, Aids or even a headache doesn’t change the facts. I am ok for people to believe in anything they want to. We live in a world full of people that believe all kinds of stupid shit. Whether they are right or wrong is not determined by the fact that they believe it.

The naysayer camp says, “That’s bullshit, you are just lazy” or “You just use thattom-nardone-of-liberty as an excuse so that you don’t have to work as hard or do anything”. I can understand both sides of this. I am ADHD so I understand the challenge it is to just get up and drive to work, while thinking about every stupid thing that I will have to listen to the other people say. I know that my head will be in a million different places, while it is expected to be in one. I know that I will be far more focused on what time it is and how soon it is until I leave, than anything that needs to be done. I know what it is like to do all of this while also being in fear that it might cause me to be fired. If you are a new reader, you don’t know this, but I have been fired many times in many ways.

Non-ADHD people do not understand any of this. When we fall behind, our coworkers might have to work a little harder. That pisses them off and they don’t want to hear about it your “made-up, bullshit condition”. They are our peers and they don’t like their shitty job any more than we do. If most of you were not ADHD, you might not care either. You would be far less educated on the matter. We just can’t expect everyone to care.

Many of you might be surprised at my level of tolerance on this matter. You might be saying, “but Tom, you are so calm. You always get mad about something.” Well…give it a minute.


Not long ago, the naysayers were so excited when Leon Eisenberg the alleged “discoverer of ADHD” said the following: “ADHD is a prime example of a fictitious disease.” They were so excited they had boners. Wow!!, Hooooolllly SHIT! They have the testimony of the man they now hale as, “The Father of ADHD” saying it is not real but a “fictitious” disease. That does not make me mad one bit either. The man changed his opinion. He has a right to do that.

Here is what pisses me off. The arrogance of an asshole named Moritz Nestor. I will quote a line from his article about this very argument.

In any case, no one can easily get around the testimony of the father of ADHD: “ADHD is a prime example of a fictitious disease.”

Moritz Nestor, (asshole)

The arrogance of these people knows no boundaries. For years, they have denied ADHD as legitimate. They have labeled it bullshit for years. By proxy, they have labeled all of us as bullshit. They could not possibly have had an inkling of respect for the “Father of ADHD”. They could not have possibly thought him more than a common asshole. Until one glorious day, he changed his mind. While he was only a modest 87 years young, seven months before his death, he changed his mind.

Then, he was no longer a quack, a hack or an asshole. He was relevant and credible doctor. Now he could be heard, quoted and revered as a hero to the naysayers.

Once these arrogant sons of bitches got the answer they liked, they branded him as “The Father of ADHD”, “The Great and Powerful OZ” and then this writer was off to see the wizard.

My reason for saying all this is to make a point. It does not matter what Leon Eisenberg, Dr. Hallowell, Tom Nardone, or the person that cuts your hair, think about ADHD. It has nothing to do with determining its existence. If you have ADHD, then great, figure out what you are going to do with it.

If tomorrow, a hundred thousand people, wake up with a totally new and refreshed outlook, and feel empathy for you and your ADHD. You still are not going to remember what in the Hell you did with your keys, and you will spend your morning looking for them just as you always do.

I am Tom Nardone, and you are welcome.

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About Tom Nardone

I write about everything that I can find humor in. I don't write about politics because I don't care what group of people are chosen to destroy this country. There are enough people doing that anyway.
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12 Responses to They Don’t Believe I Am ADHD? Oh NO!! What Ever Will I do?

  1. I researched this as much as my little head would let me. Here’s what I’ve come up with.
    Have you ever heard of The Enquirer, The Sun, or The News? Supermarket tabloids designed to shock the reader into purchasing their smutty bologna. According to Snopes (which would not let me copy/paste) Some native German speakers have reported that (when kept in context) Dr. Eisenberg wasn’t asserting that ADHD wasn’t a real disorder, but rather that it is over diagnosed.

    One part of the article I did find interesting was this quote.
    That amounted to interference in the child’s freedom and personal rights, because pharmacological agents induced behavioral changes but failed to educate the child on how to achieve these behavioral changes independently. The child was thus deprived of an essential learning experience to act autonomously and emphatically which “considerably curtails children’s freedom and impairs their personality development”

    That idea does make sense to me, but note in just this paragraph alone, the poor editing of the article. Punctuation missing, etc (That was a copy/paste)
    IMO, that though this article may contain SOME facts, it is “tabloid material”.


  2. Tom, you are as always awesome and full of great direction. As Papillonkissed noted, I had seen something similar with regard to the actual context to Dr. Eisenberg’s assertions. Over diagnoses because children are children and the education system doesn’t want to content with them is a problem.

  3. I do agree that ADHD is way too often overdiagnosed, particularly by school systems who would rather push kids to conform to narrow standards rather than work with them as individuals. I also know that there are too many out there (like some members of my family) that use their ADHD as a crutch and an excuse to dodge everyday responsibilities in life that every adult is expected to deal with. This makes it harder for the ones that need and actively seek help in dealing with their ADHD, or those that just integrate and work with it as part of their personality while fulfilling their obligations in life the best they can.

  4. sherry says:

    Tom, you are fantastic! As a person who knows so ,any who thinks ADHD is bullshit,it is refreshing to know you too have the same experience. I will work on not letting it bother me. Ignorant fools that they are. You always make me laugh, my ADHD friend.

  5. Well written, well said, Belief or non belief does not make something any less true.

  6. ksbeth says:

    you can plug your ears all you want and say, ‘la, la, la, la’ really loudly, does it mean that something isn’t true? i think not my friend. great post.

  7. tom – great! i am putting an excerpt on my blog

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