ADHD, You Are a Lion, and Inside You is a Hero!

by Tom Nardone

by Tom Nardone

There are many people, who associate themselves very closely with their own ADHD. Friend or Foe, ADHD is seemingly that which gets all the credit or takes all of the blame. There is little debate as to the negative aspects of ADHD but many people are somewhat hesitant to acknowledge the positives. I think there are too many positive things I have in common, with those with ADHD, to ignore them. At the same time, the negative things are all too real for me as well.


Things in my life today are great. I have time to do things I enjoy doing and I am enjoying seeing them succeed. Both my websites are growing weekly and I am having more fun with them than anything else I have ever attempted. I have managed to write a book, it will be published next year. My wife and I have time to spend together and talk, and have time for my son who I enjoy playing video games and talking with as well. Let me tell you why I can do these things.

I am at a job where I am established. I have a wife and kid who are wonderful, and will always be there for me. My job provides me with insurance where I can go to the doctor and receive medication for my ADHD. All these things make my ADHD very manageable.

Doing things that are fun and enjoyable are a big part of my life because everything else has been taken care of by me, and my family. Our priorities are currently taken care of, and there is no need to dwell on that, which is not an issue for us.

I worked for and/or earned those things. It was not easy, but it is done. They constitute a great support system for which I am grateful. Because of these things being in place, my ADHD is not a debilitating condition that I cannot escape. Therefore, ADHD is my friend. I wonder though, what if this support system were to crumble.

If I lost my job, I would likely not find one that would replace my income, and it would most likely not provide insurance. Without the insurance or income, I would not be able to afford my medication. I feel this could potentially destroy my life, as I know it. I am not saying medication and money is the only way to manage ADHD or to be happy, but I know how things were for me when I didn’t have them. It was bad, and I knew no bigger foe than My ADHD.

It is easy for me to speak to the people who ask me about ADHD. I am usually able to help them understand the positives. There are those who have been inspired by my stories and those who have been reminded about how things were for them at the lowest points in their own lives.

Without my medication, I wonder if I would be able to pull myself out of the fog. I believe I would, but the thought of this challenge is the scariest thing of which I can think. Sometimes, I think that the positive and cavalier attitude I have about my ADHD, is just hanging on by a thread. I know there is an ever-present potential disaster that could occur. It is easy for me to extoll the positives of my ADHD.

ADHD is no friend to the mother of a failing child with behavioral problems. ADHD is no friend to a man trying to find a job, while he is out in his car all day using gas that he can’t afford, as he tries to find work to support his own family.

I am Tom Nardone, and friend or foe; the characteristics of me, are entwined in that of my ADHD. I am happy today, and I would not trade places with anyone in the world. While ADHD is my friend, some of you are unable to say this and it is to you I will make this promise.

ADHD makes us think that we cannot do things. For some of us it has been something we have heard others say to us all our lives. While it is a hindrance, it is not a blockade. If you are not being treated, that is a great place to start.

You are not your ADHD. You are a lion, and it is within you to change your circumstances. I have done this twice. Once while not being treated for ADHD and once while being treated. I recommend the latter. I am not a proponent for tough love. I am telling you with great understanding and empathy, you can do this.

In you is a creative imagination, and if you will harness this, then you can do things that you might not have believed yourself capable. Many people all over the world have done this, in spite of their ADHD. They are happy today because of the specific things they have done to change their lives. You have heard or read success stories, but you really can be one. Your story could be the one that shows others that their life can improve. I would read it, and I would proudly post it here for others to see. Maybe there is a hero within you. Maybe someone needs that person.

I am Tom Nardone and you are welcome

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About Tom Nardone

I write about everything that I can find humor in. I don't write about politics because I don't care what group of people are chosen to destroy this country. There are enough people doing that anyway.
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12 Responses to ADHD, You Are a Lion, and Inside You is a Hero!

  1. Nadine Steidl says:

    Wow, Tom. I enjoy your writing in general, but this one really shot a thought to my heart and stayed there. I’m going to take steps to get a diagnosis and get medication. I can do this.

    • Nadine I spent a lot of time working on this story. Most of my day as a matter of fact, and in a couple of sentences you made it all worth it. Thank you for your kind words. Go be a hero!

  2. Ali says:

    Tom, I truly appreciate you taking the time to write this. You weren’t trying to be funny (although I think you are quite funny), but no, here, you weren’t trying to be funny. I point that out because I think it is so incredibly kind of you to write something meant to HELP us, meant to uplift our spirits and to tell us “Hey, I’m tell in’ you, you can handle this, and you flourish with this ADHD thing.”. Thanks, Tom, I really really realllllllllly to hear this. In fact, I’m going to email it to myself and read whenever I’m telling myself I suck.

    • Ali I really do love it when you write these things on my blog. You have made my day lady and I am honored that you would think this much of that which i have written. So email yourself if you need to or you can email me and i will tell you personally that you dont suck

  3. kelly sweeny says:

    Thank you. I’m struggling with the need to medicate my 5 year old son. I have grown up with adhd but was never medicated and think I would have benefited from meds. It is however still a struggle everyday handing my baby medication. Your writing today eased my mind alittle so thank you.

  4. Very well written post.

  5. God forbid any of that does happen to you Tom, you have a few people you can call on for help. p}!{k

  6. Tom, this is excellent. I am glad I didn’t miss this one, great job in defining the parameters of your world and how it works for you.

  7. cwmccoy126 says:

    One of my family friends asked me what it felt like to be adhd and why do some people go their whole life without being treated for it and they seemed to end up just fine. I sent them the link to this article because I had no idea how to explain it all.

    • I hope they find this to be sufficient for there need to understand. If not they can feel free to ask me about it.

      Thanks so much for reading me and I really must admire your courage. It is not always an easy thing for some to stand up for them self. Perhaps you are a lion.

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